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Day 135: The feeling of 'being left out'


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This is a post that is more like a personal rambling. It is about 'being left out'. I would like to call it as probably the 'feeling' of being left out! All of us feel that way every now and then. Sometimes at work, or at home, or with friends, probably a public space. If I were to discuss about it, I can pull out many anecdotes from my own life or even the ones from the lives of my near and dear ones. Why? Why is it that we feel that way? We have a neighbor here, she would never even look eye-to-eye anytime. I mean of the 10 neighbors we have she is probably the only one who will not even look, nor smile, nor wave or respond if we did (most often if I did !). As I'm living in this country and a conservative state, I would immediately relate that to the acceptance of colored person. Well, is that the actual reason? Probably not. 'I' feel that way as I'm living in a country that has issues accepting colored people for a very long time and even now has instances similar to that. What if this were a place where I lived with 'similar' looking folks. Say, all Indians? Probably, the same instance would make me feel that 'I' don't belong to that social strata or 'I' am not beautiful enough or 'I' am not good enough for those folks. Or I could feel that I probably belong to another state and hence do not speak similar language. Okay, okay. So, what am I hinting at? The very fact that the context will drive how or what I associate with those feelings of discrimination or being left out. What does not change is that 'feeling' itself. How do we get out of that? Every time I feel so, which is unfortunately many instances, the one and only thing that will and always work is the thought of your favorite and happy moments. Say, it could be your pet, or your parents, your brother, your best friend who is ready to talk to you anytime you want, or if you are happily married-your spouse. Trust me, that works. Every time we think of our dearest ones who matter the most to us, we can always remember that we might be left out by that person but we surely are important for a few others in life. Now, yes, I hear your question. Okay, so, what if your own loved one makes you feel that ? Well, in that case, you need to realize that they don't matter anymore. Because, in life we always need to only and only think about the most important things that matter to us. After all, we come here alone and we go alone.

My post doesn't mean all these feelings are easy to handle. It is not at all. However, these feelings are all in our mind and if we can handle our mind, then they can be too. Probably this is why, we formed the modes of prayer as a way to connect to a higher being to feel that we are always secure and protected. In my opinion a prayer is a way of connecting your own self with that of the larger cosmos. It need not be of any specific god or goddess. It is just the warm feeling that we get in our mind as we hug our spouse, or mom/dad/child, or brother/sister, or friends, or our huggable pets!

So, now, if you found this post slightly off the tangent, please read the first line again, as that is my disclaimer - this is a rambling! Thanks for your time:)
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