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Day 65: Something to preserve from the pages of treasure : 1

For the next 25 days, there will be a series of posts (called as "Something to preserve from the pages of treasure") that will be something- a line, a stanza, a verse, or a paragraph from a book that I have read, am reading or have picked up to read. I will try and elaborate based on the time available. I will however mention the book, the author, the page number or the chapter along with the quote.

So, here we go.
Cover page from Google Images 
                                               
Book Title : Why We Love : The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love
Author: Helen Fischer
Publisher: Henry Holt and Company
Edition: 2004 (1st ed.)
Status: Read
How: Borrowed from the library (the library copy did not have this cover page!).
Quote: From page 202, Buying Time.

Oscar Wilde once wrote, "The essence of romance is uncertainty." It was a clever observation. We walk a fine line when we woo. If you are too eager, an undecided suitor may flee. Biology probably plays a role in this behavior. Early acquisition of a reward reduces the duration and intensity of dopamine activity in the brain, while a delay in winning stimulates it. As a result, people who are "hard to get" tend to excite a suitor. Andreas Capellanus knew this long ago, reminding troubadours of twelfth-century France that "love easily obtained is of little value; difficulty in obtaining it makes it precious." So those who want to trigger romance in a would-be lover might artfully create some mystery, barriers, and uncertainty in the relationship. 

I know all this sounds like playing games. But love is a game, nature's only game. Just about every creature on this planet plays it- unconsciously scheming to pass their DNA into tomorrow. By counting children, nature keeps her score. 

This is a pretty decent book, probably would rate it at 3.6 or so out of 5. There are a lot of books that cover the psychology of love and human relationships. This is considered kind of a good book among the genre of books. This was a recent read. It is not my favorite but it was interesting to read an anthropologist's view on love. 
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